Up until now, my entire time in New Zealand has been planned out in such detail. I came here with a pretty clear plan of what I wanted to do, where I wanted to go and what I wanted to achieve… that was of course up until the wedding. After my brothers wedding, I had nothing. So the past couple of months have been heavily focused on decision making. Deciding what I’m going to do next, where I’m going to go and what my next move is… and it’s not been easy.
So today I thought I would give you just a few tips on how you can make decision making easier and a few ways to not let the fog completely drown you when you reach a cross roads in life.
// Decision Making – Go With Your Gut \\
I truely believe everyone has gut feelings. It’s that very first, initial thought that comes to your head. It’s that feeling deep down that just doesn’t go away and it’s that doubt that’s forever hanging around, any time a decision needs to be made. It’s that gut feeling that’s usually the right one. Go with it, follow it and see where it takes you.
// Decision Making – Air Your Thoughts \\
I had a situation recently where I had so many thoughts going through my head, so many huge decisions that needed to be made and so many different options laid out in front of me. I was thinking it all over and over in my head, constantly going back and fourth and each time leading me somewhere different. It wasn’t until I spoke to a friend about it and actually aired my thoughts, that A) I felt so much better and B) answered my own question. Sometimes it’s not until you say it out loud that you realise you’ve answered your own question.
// Decision Making – Don’t Be Influenced \\
Your decision is quite often going to effect those around you. So those around you are quite often going to influence your decision. Don’t let that be the case. You have to do what’s right for you and if that’s going to be at the detriment of those around you, then so be it. Look after your own happiness. By all means, it’s great to get other peoples opinions, but make sure it only ever stays at that. When it get’s to the point when people are giving you suggestions that ‘mutually benefit’ you, call it quits. Take the opinion on board and move on… but don’t let them sway you.
Whatever way you look at it, decisions are hard to make. Just know, everything happens for a reason and whatever path you take, you took it for a reason. If you make a decision and it’s not what you thought, don’t look at it as a mistake, look at it as a lesson. Learn from it. Grow from it.
| By Harrison |