There are so many things they don’t tell you when you head off around the world to travel. Yes, you can sit and do your research, you can read blogs like mine where they give you tips about survival on the road and you can read as many books as you like. But no matter how intense your research is, everyone’s experience is different so there is just no way everything can be covered. One of the things I’ve discovered since travelling is how fast everything happens. Not just moving around but how intense and quick things like relationships happen. Take Bali for example, I went there and met with 10 people I had never met before. Immediately we hit it off, friendships were formed and before we knew it, we were saying our goodbyes. Just like that, it all happened so quick and you barely have time to process it.
I got back from Bali and my Mum was here. Before I knew it, I was dropping her off at the airport and we again, were saying our goodbyes. The goodbyes is the thing I didn’t think I’d have to do too much of. I thought I’d have the initial goodbyes back home in England, then after that everything would be sweet. Nahhhh, I was wrong. You meet people, you create with people, you form friendships, you fall for people. But you’re on the road, you’re on the go all the time, you’re saying goodbye more than you ever thought you would. Even after you’ve settled down into a job, people resign and again you find yourself hugging through the goodbyes.
I soon leave work for a month. I have the family coming over, the wedding, the road trip. I’ll be gone from work for an entire month and as excited as I am, I’ll be saying goodbye to some people forever but most people just for a the month. The family, they’ll be here for the month but then they all leave. Many goodbyes are happening over this next month. The one thing, throughout all my research, I must have overlooked was how good at goodbyes you need to become. Sam Smith said it first. Unfortunately it just comes hand-in-hand with travel. You meet people and you move on. It’s something you’ve got to get used to.
They way in which I’ve tried to overcome the emotion of the goodbyes is by telling myself it’s not forever. To think, you can fly anywhere in the world within 26 hours. If you’ve met someone but they’re leaving for another country, you’re just a flight away. The goodbye doesn’t have to be goodbye… it could be goodbye for now. Take your family for example. That will always be home and you’ll always be welcome back. As hard as it might be to say goodbye and as unsettling as it might be to not know when you’ll be seeing them again, just know you can always go home and they’ll always be there waiting.
Travel is incredible. It’s amazing. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done. But just know, it’s not all the fluffy instagram pictures you see everyday. There are hard times as well as the many amazing times. You adapt and change and for me, I’ve become way too good at goodbyes.
| By Harrison |