I think we can all agree, we all have those friendships that have died a death and we don’t actually know what for? Let me tell you, over the years I have definitely had my fair share. It’s a part of growing up. You’re going to fall out with people, you’re going to disagree but growing up, you need to learn to live with your differences… sometimes easier said than done.
Over the years, with the breakups and make ups, I’ve soon come to learn that no matter what, it’s probably not worth falling out over. Going for months without speaking, not even as much as a text… yeah, It’s probably not worth it. Over the past few months, I’ve definitely realised that life is far too short!
Today I thought I would talk you through how to heal a broken friendship.
– Dent your ego. One of the biggest reasons friendships never get back on track is due to stubbornness. It’s okay to bruise your ego if it’s going to save a relationship. Don’t be so stubborn, make the first move. Apologise.
– Figure it out. Figure out why you’re not talking. Get to the real reason you’ve stopped talking, why your relationship has broken down. Identify that, then you decide where to go from there.
– Is it worth it? What you’ve argued about or just stopped talking for, is it worth it. What’s better? Not talking and losing your friendship, or discussing it, having an awkward conversation and then building up your friendship again?
At the end of the day, friendships are going to go through their ups and downs. But when it comes down to it, you need to realise what’s more important to you, remember the great times you once had and the memories you made. Sometimes I think friendships are more work that relationships.
Just remember guys, life is too short. Enjoy your friendships, make memories and don’t sweat the small stuff!
| Harrison |